Encouraging: giving someone support or confidence; supportive.
I was kind of stuck on this word, so I asked my husband if
he thinks I’m encouraging. I sometimes wonder if I’m living up to the ideas I
write about and if I even know what I’m writing about; just because I think I’m
encouraging doesn’t necessarily mean he thinks I’m encouraging.
I wanted to know from him if he feels that I support him and
give him confidence; I was glad when he told me I am an encouraging wife.
It sounds easy enough to give support and confidence to a
husband, but it can’t be that easy otherwise so many women wouldn’t cut their
husbands down.
What’s easy is being cynical, sarcastic, and snarky, but
that’s not the best way to treat a husband to his face or behind his back; and
if it’s behind his back, I believe that creates negative energy that eventually
comes back around.
Marriage is about getting through the good and the bad
together, for better or worse; when things are bad and at their worst, that’s
when it’s most important for me to be encouraging and supportive to my husband.
The past few years have come with a lot of hard struggles in
our home from which we’ve both learned a lot; while we still aren’t where we
want to be, we are doing better than we were and getting closer to where we
want to be, and what makes the hard times good is that we’re getting through it
together.
Improving our situation didn’t happen by me discouraging my husband
or not acknowledging the hard work he does at his job; every day I tell him how
thankful I am for all he does to improve our fixer-upper home and for taking on
work that isn’t his dream but is a necessity to improve our situation so we can
achieve our goals.
I want to be my husband’s cheerleader, that’s why I give him the support and confidence he needs so that he won’t have a reason to turn to anyone else to build him up; I don’t put him down, I don’t say hateful things to him, and I don’t give him reasons to doubt himself when the going gets tough.
- Definition source: Oxford Languages Google search
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